By D. M
There are moments when love feels like destiny, until it reveals itself as a lesson.
This is not the story of a bitter woman. This is the story of a woman who loved deeply, who trusted boldly, and who stood firm when the one she loved turned against her.
What began as a cosmic connection ended with a threat.
This is my story.
This is my truth.
And the world will be my witness.
I am writing this not to shame, but to shed light. To protect others. To show what it looks like to love, to lose, and to choose yourself.
To show what it looks like when you finally say, “No more.”
Below is the breakup letter I sent to the man I once called my person, the one who fumbled me.
Shortly after I sent this letter, Chinedu Okoli, known publicly as Flavour, sent me a direct threat via WhatsApp.
He told me:
"cooperate or be ruined."
When I asked him why he would threaten me, he said,
"Maybe now you know I’m serious."
He was threatening to post the intimate photos I had once sent him privately. He responded to my cease and desist letter by sending three of those personal videos back to me, low blow. A taunt. A reminder of what he believed was his power.
This is revenge porn.
This is harassment.
This is a crime.
Below you’ll see the reported I filed, his TikTok username. For privacy, I’ve blacked out personal phone numbers and my full name.
This is not hearsay. This is documentation. This is truth.
I am documenting everything.
Every message.
Every threat.
Every step I am taking to protect myself.
This blog is part of that documentation. This blog is my witness. And now, you, dear reader, are my witness too.
I have reported him to:
• WhatsApp
• TikTok
• Nigerian Human Rights Commission
Cyber Civil Rights Initiative
There were ancestral layers tied to this connection. I stayed in communication for that work, not for emotional or romantic attachment. The harassment arrived after I had already detached emotionally. I was staying present for completion, not entertainment.
📣 Why I’m Sharing This
Too many women are silenced by men who think they can play with our bodies, our hearts, and our dignity.
Too many women are afraid to speak out because they believe no one will believe them.
I believe you.
If you have had an experience with Chinedu Okoli or a similar experience with another man — share your story in the comments. You don’t have to share your name. You can simply say, “Me too.”
I am not ashamed of loving.
I am not ashamed of trusting.
But I will never again tolerate threats.
💥 Stay Tuned
There is more to come. More details. More receipts. More healing.
The world will be my witness.
UPDATE - August 5,
Today I received a disturbing email from my bank with a password reset link — a request I did not make. Shortly after, I was sent a complaint reference number tied to that same account. The only reason a complaint would be triggered is if someone tried and failed to get in.
As I scrolled further down my inbox, I saw it.
An email from “flavourconnect managemen” with the subject: Hello.
Interesting. I thought you didn’t do email, Chinedu.
Yet here you are — sliding into my inbox after everything you’ve already done.
I didn’t open it. I don’t need to. I already know.
I filed a formal complaint with my bank. I told them that no one is authorized to access my account but me — and only from my own verified email. I made it clear that someone is posing as me or trying to manipulate access under false pretenses.
And Chinedu?
I know that was you.
Don’t think silence will keep you safe.
I see you.
The ancestors see you.
The world will too.
Flavour Series in order of how they were Posted
Intermission: the Women of Flavour: A Spiritual Reading Between Chapters
The World Will Be My Witness: My Experience With Flavour
Nigerian Scammers Poising As Nigerian Musician Flavour
Love Bombed, Then Billed
THE FN card- How It Started
After The Goodbye
Love To See You
Visitors Card
The Promises of Love
When The Fantasy Collapsed