This issue has being running through my mind for the past week, but it was even more so while reading what has been going on in the world and then watching this movie called, Left Behind: War of Worlds. Not a religious person but it does relate to somethings that are happening right now.
In the beginning Louis Gosset Jr., who plays the President of the U.S., explains what is happening. On of the things he mentions is the vanishing of millions of people off the Earth. Right now in the year 2012, we are to move into higher states of consciousness. For those who do move on will be as if they disappeared from the Earth. There is another movie that deals with this subject that escapes me at the moment, but it speaks about the vanishing of millions of people off the Earth.
I'm not a big watcher of doomsday movies, but if you look at them with fear then this is how you will except them into your life, and your life is now dominated by things that keep you in fear because now this is the frequency you are now choosing to resonate on. But when you look at things on a spiritual level and understand that you can choose how you except information you can resonate your frequency out of fear, and except things as information to keep you up to date on what is going on around you.
The motive of things going on around you are to keep you distracted from the big picture of what is really going on around you. Television, sitcoms, news, which is filtered information. Music industry with who is or is not the Illuminati or working with the Illuminati, Kony, SOPA, NDAA, Monsanto, its enough to leave you feeling helpless and scared. All ways remember behind one small distraction lies the bigger distraction, and the people in the U.S. have been distracted. How else can laws be passed all of a sudden? Because while we were distracted by the little distraction the bigger action was being pulled into place. Think about everything that has happened between 2001 up until now, and the many new laws that have been pulled into place.
I placed the link to the Left Behind clip because it spoke a lot to me. So, now we're in the middle of the race and you have to decide, "To Fear or Not To Fear." There will be more information put out that will help keep you in your low vibration of fear. You want to try and raise your vibration then one of things is to stop watching the news. That stuff will make a 2 year old cry. Stop watching it before you go to sleep because that's not helping you either. Want a bigger challenge? Stop watching it for a week, and see how different you feel. Just because its on television doesn't make 100% true.
It's now time to raise your vibration out of the fear that the media and government want to keep you in. Before we all came into this world we wrote our scripts in the ethereal realm, don't get diverted from your path.
Tips on Raising Your Vibration
Turn off the TV. Try it for 5 to 7 days and see how you feel.
Stop reading the paper as well for 5 to 7 days and see how you feel.
Start reading things that are more uplifting for your spirit and mind.
Mediatate. If your just starting do it for 10 minutes a day.
Stay away from negative people/situations.
Do things that make you happy.
Stay away from low vibrational music. (This means music that demonizes women or uses profanity. Music is not like music used to be from the 1980's on back, but there are some good artist who are played on the radio that make music you can feel. I'll post a few videos I've found here.)
Surround yourself with good spirited people.
These are some of the things that will help you raise your vibration. The one I left out that's the most important is to LAUGH. To laugh is what pulls you up out of your darkness. This is work that you must do for yourself and yourself only. Anytime you have to adjust yourself to make someone else feel comfortable or better about themselves leaves nothing but you making yourself unhappy and uncomfortable. Do this for you because you're ready to do this for you. Raise your vibration from being in the Root Chakra to the Heart Chakra.
Please learn to Not Fear. It's not an easy thing to do I know, because this world has so fearful. It's time now to re-program yourself and to tap back into your spirit. Your spirit is fearless, but your mind stuck in this construct since the day you were born has learned how to fear. Know and understand and overstand that you cannot reach the vibration of the heart chakra until you begin to change you. The heart is truely 100% accepting, loving. On the path to this you will begin to see truths that where hidden to you because you were not ready to accept them. You will have to go through this and clear this issues in order to enter the heart chakra completely. The goal is to enter the heart chakra and to stay there. You will know when you enter it because you will feel a sensation you have not probably ever felt before. You will know this when you get here.
I found this video channel online by a guy named Ryan. Ryan is a star seed that just woke up. Well we are all star seeds from somewhere else we just have not fully awaken to this yet because you choose to stay asleep in this 3D world right now. In his videos, he answered a lot of questions I have been having for a while now. This is not just something you can talk to people about who are not yet there where you are,or experiencing what you are experiencing.
He gave out a technique to help connect you to your other higher selves on the other dimensions. Yes, we do have higher selves. There are other versions of us in a parallel world as well. Think I’m crazy or just tripping that’s it quite alright.
This technique has you to clear, adjust, align, clear yourself in this dimension and gives the command for your higher selves to do the same. So, Friday night before I went to bed I decided to try this. You can do this in the shower or a steam room, because you’re cleaning yourself you need some place for all that negativity to go once you do this, because you are not just cleaning yourself here but all your higher selves are cleaning as well. I didn’t feel any difference after I did it. Being honest because I did not. So, I get out the shower and I go and meditate. As I’m meditating, I see a few faces pop up that are clear that I have not met in my journey here in this world. It was a few but not a lot to disrupt my meditation. After I meditate, I lay down to go to sleep. As I do the faces pop in now more frequently. They are of different colors and they are all happy and saying hi to me. It didn’t freak me out because I’m used to faces coming in when I close my eyes from time to time to say hi. This was more frequent then what I am used too. They are usually all male faces, and African American, but this time I had women who came in to say hi and they were white, African American. It was cool to see that.
So, one is supposed to do this clearing everyday, but last night I didn’t. I was tired and so I ate and went to sleep. So, even though I didn’t feel the clearing while I was taking a shower Friday, I guess on another level it still worked in its own way for me. If Ryan (dero7) ever comes across this blog I just want to say to you thank you for your videos, because you have answered questions that I have had about this and other subjects as well. Thank you.
“When the student is ready, the teacher will come”, which is very true. I’ve had teachers come to me physically and through learning online, and I thank them all. But understand that they can only teach you what you seek to know. It is on you to carry it out through your action. Your action only, makes the difference. Maybe some time at some point later I’ll give my story on how I’m waking up.
I was going through a book I bought back in the summer of 2011 but as I never got around to reading it until now. Usually reading something else or I buy a book and come back to it later. I was reading it and came upon some interesting information. The name of this book is “The Woman’s Encyclopedia of Myths and Secrets" by Barbara G. Walker. Here are some things that were of an interest. More will be added so check back.
Sin
The Original Moon-god of Mount Sinai, “Mountain of the Moon.” He was born of the Virgin Queen of Heaven, Nanna or Inanna. He ruled the Land of Sinim (Isaiah 49:12), which meant “land of the lunar mountain” and was an older form of Zion. His Chaldean name was Kingu. He was the god who received the Tablets of Law from the primal Mother of Creation, Tiamat. As Moses’s god, he still had the same mountain-throne and the same tablets. A biblical scholar has pointed out that “the Jehovah of the Hebrews” was merely another transformation of “the primitive lunar deity of Arabia.”1
The god Moses met on Mount Sinai claimed to be the god of Abraham, though he said Abraham knew him by a different name (Exodus 6:3). In fact, Abraham may have been the same deity. Very ancient documents used the name Abraham or Ab-ram as a synonym for Ab-Sin, Moon-father. 2 In the 12th century B.C., the Babylonian heaven was ruled by a trinity consisting of Shamash, Sin, and Ishtar, represented by the sun, moon, and stars.3
Tantric tradition said the triangle was the Primordial Image, or the female Triangle of Life. 1 It was known as the Kali Yantra, representing Kali as Cunti, or else as the Yoni Yantra, or sign of the vulva.2 In Egypt the triangle was a hieroglyphic sign for “woman,” and it carried the same meaning among the gypsies, who brought it from their original home in Hindustan. 3 In the Greek sacred alphabet, the delta or triangle stood for the Holy Door, vulva of the All-Mother Demeter (“Mother Delta”).
Most ancient symbol systems recognized the triangle as a sign of the Goddess’s Virgin-Mother-Crone trinity and at the same time as her genital “holy place,” source of all life. The triangle represented the Virgin Moon Goddess called Men-Nefer, archaic deity of the first Mother-city of Memphis. 4 The triangle itself was worshipped in much the same way that modern Christians worship the cross. Concerning this, Oriental sages said: “The object of the worship of the Yantra is to attain unity with the Mother of the Universe in Her forms as Mind, Life, and Matter…preparatory to Yoga union with Her as She is in herself as Pure Consciousness.” 5
The triangle was everywhere connected with the female trinity, and a frequent component of monograms of Goddess. To the Gnostics, the triangle signified “creative intellect.”6
1. Silberer, 170. 2.Mahanirvanatantra, 127. 3. Lederer, 141. 4. Book of the Dead, 204. 5. Avalon, 428. 6. Koch, 8-9, 54.
I have heard both sides of the argument when it comes to a polygamous marriage. You have men and women who are against it and feel that man only needs to marry one woman at a time. That this is some type of new hustle for men to get pussy from a woman. That we live in the U.S. and you can’t have any more than one wife any way. Then there are those who proclaim that there is nothing wrong with a man having more than one wife. That it would strengthen the community, get that woman off of welfare, that’s if she is on it, provide a male image for her children, and just uplift the Black family. That it puts the man back in his rightful place which is to provide and to protect the woman and the child(ren).
Polygamy is practiced in some African countries, but not all. It is a structure that brings together unity for sisterhood between the two women, upliftment and love for the family unit. To be practiced amongst any body here in the states it has to be done with commitment, fairness and maturity. This system of marriage is not to be played with or to be entered into lightly. It can’t be entered into lightly because you are dealing with peoples emotions, and just like any monogamous relationship you must be ready as an individual before you should enter this type of relationship as well because you are dealing with the individual’s time, energy, and most of all emotions.
So, you might ask, ‘Well what side are you on?’ Being that I have seen polygamous marriages work and fall, and not only experienced them from watching on the outside but have been in one as well, I am for them. Would I do it again? Yes, with the right man I would. But before I did me and the man that I was interested in marrying would have to have a long talk. He would have to make it crystal clear to me why he would want to be in a polygamous marriage. I mean make it so clear that there would be no room for misinterpretation on my part of why he wanted to do this. Mines did not work for reasons I will not put here, but it is a beautiful system. Not everyone is ready or willing to deal with being in a polygamous marriage. Most black women will be ready to cuss you out and fight you knowing that there partner was dealing with someone else. Not knowing that he may be seeing someone else. It’s not about the sex and should not be treated as if it is all about the sex. A person can enter a monogamous marriage or relationship and that too can be seen as just sexual, and most are. So if you are entering a polygamous marriage and this is your out look on it then its not for you. Your not marriage minded period as of yet.
I was in a polygamous marriage while I was practicing Islam. I no longer practice. Before I decided to enter into such a marriage I saw the goodness of it. Meaning I saw how beautifully it worked, and I saw the nastiness of it. I heard of stories where the second wife knowing this was the type of relationship she was entering would just mentally break down and call the first wife and say to her, ‘This is my man not yours. He is staying with me and you can’t have him back. Go find you another man.’ She clearly wasn’t ready to enter into a marriage such as this. There should be no jealousy or cattiness brought into this. Then I’ve seen the ones that worked. The sisters helped one another out, there was no cattiness, any problems that arose they took care of because it was between them, not them and the husband. Most of the time the husband never even knew a problem existed.
While I was practicing I had a sister I knew invite me over to her house. I would visit her from time to time but today was different. Today when I came to visit her she took me away to her room so she could talk to me privately. The conversation…her husband. She was telling me what a good man he was, and how well he treated her and her co-wife, who I knew as well and that I would make a wonderful addition to the family. Then the other co-wife came over and told me some of the same things she did but also explained to me what the polygamous marriage was all about. Things changed though when I met the husband who was a friend of my ex-husband. He told me that he asked my ex-husband was it okay if he asked to marry me and that my ex said yes, and told him what a good wife and person I was.
The element changed when I met him because his energy did not sit right with me. You know the type, they come into a room and all of a sudden you start to feel tired and drained. They call it psychic vampirism. Well that’s what I felt around him. I loved my sister friends and I was so honored that they approached me for marriage to their husband and into their family. They also told me the only reason why they did chose to approach me is because every time they where in my presence or saw me out in the masjid, they would watch how I behaved around other sisters. This brother had three wives when I married my first husband and he had a wife who I became best friends with. So, the brother knew of me for a while. I just could not risk putting my friendship on the line with these two beautiful sisters knowing in my heart that it would not work between he and I. He was trying to be the provider and protector because I just had a baby around that time.
This is how I feel a polygamous marriage should work. The woman picks who would be a good fit into the family. If I’m the first, I want to know the woman coming in. I want to sit down and talk to her. See her in her environment around people and how she functions and acts. I want to get to know her genuine, authentic self just like I wanted to get to know my husbands genuine, authentic self. This is how I feel it should work. I was honored to have those two sisters approach me to be apart of their family. You also want to make sure of the sisters mentally stability. Because what affects one will eventually affect the whole and that's what a family structure is a whole.
I can agree with a polygamous marriage when the man is seriously going to protect and provide for his family, and any children that come into that family. This means that he has the financial means to do so. I don’t like it when I see men (mostly Muslim) who marry three or four women and have those women in the welfare office. He clearly does not have the means to have all these women but because his religion told him he could, he does. This right here is a dis-service to the woman and to the family unit. Another man is providing for you and that woman in the house and you are supposed to be doing this for her. As a woman who has a man she should never have to go to another man to have things provided to her. Not even her father. You married the woman and this is now your job. If a woman is on assistance and you want to marry her, in order for her to let go and trust in your provision as a man you must show to her you can provide for her and her child(ren). Its backwards to have it go the other way around. You marry her and then marry two more and now you got them all on assistance. None of them should be there. In her eyes that kind of devalues your manhood.
So the questions I put out are:
If I am the first wife how long before you decide to want to take on a second wife?
Why do you want to be in a polygamous marriage? Make your intention crystal clear so there can be no misinterpretations? Make your intention to why you want to marry her crystal clear?
If I were to agree to enter back into a polygamous marriage. I would do solely because I have a ten year old child who I wanted to spend more time with. Possibly have another child if we were both in agreement with that. Like I said we would have to have a serious talk. He would have to court me so I could make sure he was the one I did really want to marry. Off subject. Back to the questions.
How do you intend to provide for your wife(s)?
How do you view the women and the role they play in a marriage like this to you? If it’s a first wife, then how do you view her role in marriage to you?
What do you expect to get from a polygamous marriage?
When choosing a second wife does she also have a say so in the decision?
What will be the processing for how the second wife is chosen?
What will be the living arrangements for both wives? Separate apartments, shared living, etc.
What type of life style are you able to provide to them?
Will the marriage be open for everyone to witness or in private? Explain what private means to you?
Will the marriages be registered with the state you married in?
What type of ceremony will you two have?
Would you want to have children or have more children if you have them already?
Are you requesting that wife(s) be tested for STD’s? Even you. (This is a big concern when women think about polygamy)
Are you okay with her working outside the home or just being in the home?
If she decides to stay home are you willing to provide her an allowance?
If she works outside the house, do you feel she should contribute some of her earnings into the family unit?
If taking on a second wife, how long should you two get to know her ( if you two agree on you dating) before you actually marry?
What do you have in place in case of your death for your wives?
Now, I ask this last question because most men have nothing in place for there wives once they transition and the last thing you want to do is leave your woman being destitute after you provided for her for so long. What do you have in place that both of your wives will still be able to live on for a while without having to go seek assistance..
It can work. The first wife and the husband must first have a solid foundation. Solid foundations are the basis for anything lasting. Relationships are meant for two people to come together as a unit. To grow and become stronger. With polygamy everyone in that unit has the ability to strengthen there relationships with one another and grow. You still have your own individuality were you are growing and being stronger within your self as well. This is not for everyone. Most people are fine with monogamy, open-relationships, polyandry, serial monogamy. What you do may not fit everyone else. In my journey on the earth so far I have ran into women who are married and tell me, he seeing another woman and I keep telling him to go but he won’t. Or I know where he goes when he is not with me, and I have a garden or I cook something and send it with him to give to her.
Polygyny
the practice of having more than one wife; a form of marriage existing throughout history and found chiefly in patriarchies. In its late forms, polygyny was retained in the class society of certain Muslim peoples of the East as a privilege of the ruling classes. Polygamy, a less precise term, is sometimes used instead of polygyny.
Marriage to more than one spouse at a time. Although the term may also refer to polyandry (marriage to more than one man), it is often used as a synonym for polygyny (marriage to more than one woman), which appears to have once been common in most of the world and is still found widely in some cultures. Polygyny seems to offer the husband increased prestige, economic stability, and sexual companionship in cultures where pregnancy and lactation dictate abstinence, while offering the wives a shared labour burden and an institutionalized role where a surplus of unmarried women might otherwise exist. The polygynous family is often fraught with bickering and sexual jealousy; to preserve harmony, one wife may be accorded seniority, and each wife and her children may have separate living quarters. Polyandry is relatively rare; in parts of the Himalayas, where brothers may marry a single woman, the practice serves to limit the number of descendants and keep limited land within the household.
What I intend to speak about in no way pertains to every Muslim. I have just noticed something in the Islamic community that needs to be addressed whether those in the Islamic community are aware of these situations or not. This article is in no way meant to target, mis-credit or demean in any way, shape or form, but there are too many stories that I am hearing from other Muslims about what is happening, and it sickens me and I was absolutely appalled and in disbelief when it was first told to me. But like all things when you hear a story of something happening more then once but from different people ,within the religion, then you have to start to wonder what is going on, and is the religion still effective or does one just do it now out of habit? This question pertains to all religions. This is my disclaimer.
I was speaking to a friend and some how, like it usually happens, I was told that in an Islamic community that sisters’ get together, not for tasleem, but to have oral sex with one another. Well, I’m sitting on the phone in utter disbelief by that statement, and I say, ‘stop. No they don’t.’ My friend never has a reason to exaggerate the truth when it comes to the facts and my friend says, ‘yes, they do. I was talking to a sister who is apart of this community and she said that this is what the sisters’ get together to do.’ My reaction. Oh, my goodness. We talk about other things but that is the thing out of all the things we spoke about that left the impression on me the most.
I have been in the masjid during an event, and heard some young sisters in the hallway saying, ‘we still going out tonight to the club?’ Yes, the club.
I have been to dinners at sisters’ houses and not only do they talk about the wonders and the love for Allah, they talk about how the man who was the father had his child sit on his lap and was sexual fondling her. Or how a Sister re-married brought a child into that new marriage, had children with the man only to find out later he was molesting the child that was not his biologically. Ok, madness be still!
So, I find myself walking away from the Muslim community and only emerging for Jumah, and then slowly walking away all together after being in it for eleven years. I realized that a lot of Non-Muslims perceive Muslims as holy. Like Muslims could do no wrong. I’m sorry, but while I was practicing no one anointed my feet every morning. As Muslims we feel that and hold everyone to the standard of do you follow what comes out of the Quran and Sunnah. Well, at least I did and the people I hung around. I’ve seen the beauty of this deen and I’ve seen the madness, so it’s the madness that needs to be spoken on right now. Let’s address the holy than thou mentality Non-Muslims portray on Muslims because I got this a lot. Muslims are nothing more than people who slip and can make mistakes as well. As long as you are here in this flesh you are liable to make a mistake every once in a while.
Let’s address some of the questions I had while practicing and these questions still haunt me now.
-What are the reasons why young Muslimahs do not want to marry right away or at all?
-When interviewing a potential mate do you ask or talk about sex?
-Is there homosexuality in the Muslim community?
I have recently heard that a lot of young Muslimahs are not rushing to get married. Well they weren’t rushing while I was practicing either. A lot of young women now want an education, and don’t feel that being a housewife is for them. All that is fine. You have Muslims and Muslimahs who want to chose there own mates and don’t feel rushing into a marriage with someone they hardly know is the answer for them. When you do that you have young ladies who now start to sneak around. Example, every year there is an Arab American festival where I live. I took my daughter, and we walked in where the stage was. Walk a little farther and you come to the picnic tables and the food stands. As we are walking I hear someone call out to somebody and here walks up this Arab girl to this Caucasian guy. She walks to him and looks around, and he is looking at her in a perplexed way. She holds his arm still looking around and says to him, ‘wait right here. I’ll be back, I‘m with my family.’ She’s laughing, but still looking around. I’m looking at this scene going to myself I need to sit down and watch this play out, but I don‘t.
One he’s looking perplexed because he probably never saw her in her scarf, and doesn’t know what to make out of this, and she keeps looking around because her family is with her and they have no idea about him.
So, explain to me what is wrong with love when you come across it and it doesn’t practice the same way you do? Why should men only be privy to marriage to someone of another religion? I know I’ve heard it before, ‘because the Non-Muslim male would strip her of her religion.’ Not a true statement. I’ve meet a few Muslim women who married Non-Muslim men who respected her religion, and he was of another religion and they got along peacefully. It worked for them. So, is this just a way to subdue the woman so she does not ever want to stray outside the religion? A way to keep her docile? My other question is if she is stripping off her hijab (scarf) and going to clubs why is she doing it? Don’t get me wrong because men are in the clubs too getting there groove on.
These young men and women are looking for outlets that are not in the Muslim community. They have their music that they like to listen too. There are no social functions for these young people that they do sneak. There are no social functions because of the fear of mixing. So, why the fear of mixing? Most go to public schools, not Islamic, so they are meeting those of the opposite sex.
Some may be at an age where they want to marry but it’s hard to find someone if you can’t get close enough to talk to them. So, now they are going too find ways to socialize.
Is there homosexuality in Islam? While I was practicing I heard about a Masjid in Canada that allows homosexuality. In some Muslim countries it is allowed. But the talk among Muslims who knew this was how can that be when the Quran forbids such a practice. That if you follow the Quran how can you go against it and still practice homosexuality. I placed an article below where in Jakarta it is now allowed. So, to answer the question does it exist. Yes, especially if its allowed in some muslim countries and a masjid was built in Canada that’s attended by those who prefer the same-sex.
So, she may not want to marry because she is simply not ready to marry, never wants to marry because of the example in her household on marriage or what she has heard of marriage, or she just may be lesbian. You can disagree but I stand by this.
So, let’s get to the next question. Why were those women having oral sex with one another? (I’m not practicing and it still blows my mind) Well, I have come to the conclusion that men, you not taking care of your woman like you are supposed too. You can go to Mecca and kiss that black stone that resembles your woman’s vagina but yet you can’t go and worship the alter that sleeps next to you every night. In the Quran it speaks about the man and the woman being each others garment and to go to it as you will. Meaning how ever you two agree to have sex it is permissible.
Sexually take care of your woman, so she is not feeling unfulfilled sexually. This should not be a topic that is uncomfortable for two married people to speak about. You can’t just fall on top of her when the lights go out, ejaculate and think that she is okay because you ejaculated. Sex is about pleasure from one to the other. You want her to make you feel good you have to make her feel good, and when it comes to women, men have to put in a little bit more time called foreplay. Worship at the temple.
The other conclusion I came too was because maybe they are bi-sexual or lesbian. Don’t get appalled. Muslims get appalled to easily instead of critically looking at something for what it is. Remember I said NOT ALL Muslims. I’m only addressing the ones that are doing this practice. It’s a large amount because I was I told this about two communities where I reside, so it exist. So, let’s tackle the issue at hand, and stop acting like we are living in the times of Muhammad (S.A.W).
If these women are bi-sexual or lesbian it is forbidden for them to proclaim so, because homosexuality does not go hand and hand when dealing with Islam. When I speak of homosexuality I speak of women and men. So, you either have women in the community who do it because the man is not fully taking care of her sexually or she is bi-sexual. This leads into the next question.
When interviewing a potential mate do you ask or talk about sex?
Why is this topic such a turn off when you go to talk about it if you even dare to approach it? I have experienced this when I was interviewing brothers for marriage and so have a lot of other women. This is a necessary part of the interview process if you plan on getting married. I got tired of hearing brother’s say astagfillah sister we should not talk of things like that. Why not? We plan on doing it once we marry someone, right? Then it’s a necessary part of the interviewing process. Like I mentioned before sister’s want to feel sexually fulfilled by their man, not like a jump off (one night stand that you just get off on). So, as part of that process both parties should be mature enough to talk about this. You’re mature enough to do it, but you can’t speak on the issue. Allah is not going to get you for talking about sex. Most Muslim men can easily have sex with a non-Muslim woman but refuse to speak of it when around a Muslim woman which to me is kind of backwards.
I have heard of sister’s who told there wali that before considering or agreeing to marry the brother she needed to see his penis. Yes, you read correctly. Remember not just spiritual, emotional, financial, mental fulfillment, she needs sexual as well. It’s called compatibility. Just because two people have the same spiritual belief system does not mean off the back they are right for one another. It’s more than just that. You have to take the other components into consideration as I just mentioned along with the personality of the two people. So, communication and spending time together plays a big part of a potential relationship, whether it’s a platonic friendship or a friendship between the two that works out into a long lasting relationship.
The Wali went and told the brother what the sister requested, and all three parties went into a private area and the brother exposed himself for her. She looked and then left. That was her request. She had to know for herself, so how could she be denied. To deny that for her would have probably made her say no to marriage to the brother. I don’t know if this topic is viewed as dirty, but it is not at all dirty. Remember your potential wife or current wife is not your jump off, if you treat her as such you will lose her and sex with you will no longer be a joy it will be viewed as a chore. Once something starts feeling like we got to do it we start slacking hoping you catch on to the meaning.
Famous poets in Arabia glorified homosexuality. Below is the poem, "Perfumed Garden" by Abu Nuwas:
O the joy of sodomy! So now be sodomites, you Arabs. Turn not away from it-- therein is wondrous pleasure.
Take some coy lad with kiss-curls twisting on his temple and ride as he stands like some gazelle standing to her mate.
A lad whom all can see girt with sword and belt not like your whore who has to go veiled.
Make for smooth-faced boys and do your very best to mount them, for women are the mounts of the devils
Surah 52.24 And there shall wait on them [the Muslim men] young boys of their own, as fair as virgin pearls."
Surah 76.19-20 They shall be attended by boys graced with eternal youth, who will seem like scattered pearls to the beholders."
Surah 4.15 And as for those who are guilty of an indecency from among your women, call to witnesses against them four (witnesses) from among you; then if they bear witness confine them to the houses until death takes them away or Allah opens some way for them
I am basically a home body, which means I drop my child at school, go to work, pick my child up and then go home. I don't do clubs, and when I go to the movies 9 times out of 10 I have my child with me and we are going to see some child friendly movie she wants to see. Dating is much different then it was when I was in my 20's. A guy would take me out to dinner, maybe go to a show and he would bring me home and we would sit in te car and finish having our conversation. He would walk me to the door say good night and then go home. Now, from what I'm hearing dating has a new face, especially among these 20 something's now. Especially in the club setting. Oh, my goodness. I can't put them all in the same bag. It just makes me ask, "what is dating now?"
I last dated when I was 23 years old. I then chose to be celibate until I was 25. This is when I discovered Al-Islam and got married to the man who gave me shahada. I was married four times between the ages of 25 to 34. I am not ashamed of it. Between me marrying these four men was two years that I was to myself. These two year intervals between each man was supposed to be my introspection time, but I kept marrying the same man, just a different body. I sought a divorce on moral issues. There were things I saw about them that I morally could not deal with and when I asked about certain things before we got married I was either lied to or told half the story as I would later find out. The only one who was decent was my third husband. He decided he wanted girlfriends as well. We are still friends, but I could not be remarried to him again. He loves women to much, and I'm one that doesn't look back once I walk away unless it was a situation that was just plain childish on both our ends then I would give it a go again, but that hasn't happened yet.
My fear of dealing with men that left me feeling and locking myself away like a hermit was in 2006 with my last husband. He literally put fear in me concerning men that I never had towards men before in my life. It was eating me up so much that I had to resolve within myself that I refused to be afraid any longer because of what this one guy did. I made my resolve and then put into the universe the type of men that I wanted to grace the presence of me and my child. A year later the universe answered and I met a guy who is a mutual friend to a sister I know. He and I are now friends, and he has helped renew my faith, but I realize the process of that renewal began with me. If I didn't release that negative energy that man had shown to me I would be a negative, resentful woman towards men, and its not fair to the opposite sex to let that type of baggage on to them and they had absolutely nothing to do with the way you are feeling now.
So, from 2006 up until September of 2011 I have been a hermit going through introspection of my life and what I want. It for me was about emotional clearing. I had to emotionally cleanse myself of all the crap I have been holdiing onto. I remember my spiritual teacher I was seeing back in 2006 telling me, "You are in a lot of pain. You have to let go of that fear. You will let go of the pain. You must learn to feel. You have to feel." It was all true what he was telling me. Alot of us are caught up in just having someone in our lives and we have not yet emotionally healed from whatever it is that has us bound up with that fear. You can't enjoy the person that you have present in your life if you are afraid of them leaving you. Think they are merely there to make you happy, or that you can't live without them if they spiritually out grow you. If you are comfortable, and happy with yourself, that person who comes and is then present with you then becomes your compliment. If they leave or spiritually, emotionally out grow you you'll be fine because you were actually fine before they arrived. You have to have an emotional clean slate before you start to seek out anyone else. To learn and take one another for what you/ they are can't be done when you still hanging onto past baggage lugging it around with you. You're still concerned about how someone from your past hurt you and you take that into a present relationship worrying if they will hurt you the same way has set you up for being hurt again because you brought it in with you and you didn't take the time to emotionally cleanse yourself. You became unfair not only to yourself but to that new person. You must emotionally heal. The hurt will only re-surface until you stop, look it straight in the situation and deal with it. Learn from it. Heal from it. Grow from it. Move on and away from it.
I've meet people who because they had a bad upbringing and mommy wasn't around or doing what she was supposed to do, and you show them some kindness this person became attached, and afraid if i left that he would loose it. Well, I did leave and he is doing fine. We have to leaarn to be okay with being alone for a while as well. When your alone you get to learn more about who you are.
Well, now I'm ready to come out the hermit mode, and start putting myself back out there which I'm finding has changed and its different now for me, because I didn't have a child before. This is the part where it becomes a litte difficult because even though I want to start meeting people again, I don't believe in putting my child off on my mother. I do that enough with her picking up and watching her after school. So, it has brought me into the mind of, it would just be better to have a platonic male relationship. You get to know the person much better than you would dating them. With a friendship you get to see the genuine, authenic person instead of meeting the first impression person you get on a date. You get to see how that person interacts with others on a personal level when they are just hanging out with people they know. There is no special show being put on, just for your benefit so you'll like them. You are also building a foundation for your relationship with that person whether it goes beyond a friendshp or not. You also have a foundation.
I had a male friend in high school. I was in the eleventh and he was in the tenth. We had one class together and we would talk in class and still do our work and the teacher didn't mind. I think she liked the way we interacted with one another as well. We stayed friends after high school, but it never progressed any further than a friendship because I was not attracted to him any more than on a friend basis. He had a beautiful personality, funny, and he was nice looking, intelligent. I remember he took me out on a date and it just felt strange. That's when I knew that it wouldn't be anymore than what it was already. I moved to Georgia and we lost touch. I want a friendship with a guy first. I just think that is so important if anything is going to last. It may not be for you, but dating for me just seems superfical and sexual. I may not want to have sex with you that week, two weeks from then or even a month from meeting you. Sex is sacred, so I consider my celibacy a virtue. Who ever he is he must accept. No manipualtion games, just accept. I consider my womb sacred and not a deposit center for every man's seed. There's no sign here that says, 'all deposits welcome'. I'm at the point in my life where just merely having sex is not satisifing enough for me. I want to expereince Tantra. I want to experience a spiritual, emotional connection with the man that I am with, and that right there alone is sacred. Sex is not just screwing everybody just because they look good. Its not dirty, but it is sacred, and there is a spiritual connection being made. (This isn't meant to do with just anybody. So a one night stand won't work. This is for a long term partner.) Exchanging of energies, not just body fluids. So, there can be no drama attached to him especially since I want to experience Tantra.
This is where my journey has led me. This is where I am at. We must get back to building foundations with one another. Learning self-control of just having sex with anybody and not checking them out fully. You could possibly be passing the 'one' for you by just because she said she wants to be just friends. Hear those words, just friends. Not a booty call, not your casual sex partner, not your one night stand, but your friend. Meaning she likes you and wants to get to know the genuine, authentic you, and if you show it to her and stay real with her, you may get her and have her for a while and be truely happy with what you got. She not only knows the genuine, authenic you, you know the genuine, authenic her.
I absolutely love this video because it tells us as parents not to get discouraged because our children are labeled as ADD or ADHD, but to also understand that we have children that ae shining stars and are special and intelligent regardless of what they are being labeled. I had to start this site because they were trying to label my child as ADD. She was a child that just refused to do her school work. I was told by her teacher that she refused to pick up a pencil and write. I went to look for a school with a smalll class size, and I found a school not far from me that offered just that. As I was talking to principal and telling her about my child she said to me that your child sounds as if she has disgraphia. Disgraphia I researched is when a person has a hard time writing and may need special equipment to do there work like a computer. My daughter loves working on computers. I decided not to put her in that school because it was a religious based school and I don't want my child in any type of religious based school. No swipe against those who are or do put there children in religious based schools.
One day sitting in front of my daughters school waiting for the bell to ring, I was listening to a morning talk radio program. The topic was schools earning a fee from your child. They were talking about how the schools refer parents to go see there doctors annd if the child is put on medication like Ritalin the school gets a fee off of that child being put on medication. Needless to say I got angry sitting in my car listening to that and here it was the school she attended was trying to have me do that very thing. So, I say to all parents that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your children. We have a school and medical system trying to make money off our children by medicating them. The medication may "calm" them but its also suppressing emotion. My daughter had a friend who was in her class that was put on Ritalin, and all of a sudden she told me he was threating her for no reason, and saying he was going to beat her up. This was after the medication. Before that there were no such incidents. They were no longer in the same classes together, she said he would see her at lunch or on the playground. Then she said, "Mama he not the same anymore." She could tell the change and didn't know he was being medicated.
One of the things I found that worked with mt daughter was that I HAD to change her diet. I had her focus her attention to that which she loves to do, which is the arts. Drawing, coloring, writing and drawing her own comic book. I am in the process of getting her a guitar. In other words find your child's talent or future aspirations and start working on them now. They want to be a Chef let them cook in the kitchen with you. In other words find your child's talent or future aspirations and start working on them now. In other words find your child's talent or future aspirations and start working on them now. Meditation works well. They may only be able to do it for five minutes but that's okay, its a start. Most important part get them off the white sugar. Its like crack. They eat it, then they're all over the place. Get them outside. I've noticed most schools now don't have recess time, just gym. Let chilldren be children and play and this ADHD would be knocked out. Show love and compassion because these children coming in the world now need our love, compassion, and time.
I found this brother not to long ago that goes in and explains the link of the Public School System and the link with black children rather excellently. Take a listen for yourself.
