By D. I. Muhammad
Plain and Simple
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Friday, July 3, 2026
The Mission Continues
Looking For Love
If one goes by what they see on the internet, or by stories told to them about the dating scene , one would absolutely be horrified to even take a chance in that arena.
I haven't dated since 2013, when I drew that line in the sand, and proclaimed to Most High and my Ancestors that, " I'm done. Don't send nobody across this line that's not supposed to be here!" I made that proclamation with my whole chest, and I meant it. I met a man that I liked. He had just got a job working the afternoon shift until one am. I took him to work, picked him up. He blatantly lied, and didn't keep his word, but the straw that broke the camels back when I needed him most, is when my Dad passed.
My car decided to go down, and my dad's wife told me, "if you can get to my house, you can ride with me to the funeral." I got a cab. My money was low. I just paid off my bills. After the funeral, I'm sitting in the empty limousine, and I called him that morning. I asked, if he could come pick me up at the church, and take me home. He lived ten minutes away. From the church I was five to eight minutes away.
He told me, "I got to go to work." I sadly, but calmly said, " I pick you up and drop you off at work everyday. I'm asking to get home from my dad's funeral, and you don't have to be at work yet." He still said no. It broke my heart. He met a woman at work he told me about. His face beamed when he spoke about her. I wasn't supposed to be concerned because she was Lesbian. He admitted to spending the night at her house, four days before this incident.
I appreciated his honesty, but we weren't supposed to be together. Especially when he's acting like he doesn't want me. Like I'm supposed to stick around.
I threw myself into work, raising my daughter who was 12 at the time, and working on me. I dealt with my shadow self. I was aligning myself spiritually. I was rediscovering me.
I got a reading from a Voudun priest. Found out, as they say, who was on my head. Dancing was my release. I danced until I couldn't dance anymore. I honored an Orisha. I set up an altar in honor of my ancestors. When I honored them, I honored myself. They honored me. Then in November of 2015, I lost my brother, and six months later my grandmother. When I love, I love hard, so it took me some years to get through the grief of both of them.
I never left a relationship, and just jumped into the next thing coming. For me moving out of relationships required working through not only what they did, but looking at yourself and figuring out your part in this. It required healing, even though a few past relationships felt I was moving into a brand new one after them. This has been the longest time since I've been out of one.
In the dating scene I've noticed more people have become toxic towards one another. I've always been genuine, and never been with the mind fuck games. You either want to genuinely get to know me or you're for the streets. I've always been a show me who you are so I can move accordingly woman.
I don't chase. If you want me, come get me. I'll flirt, and that's about it. If I'm interested I've slipped my number to a man, and the rest was up to him. I don't do that often. Being bold and forward.
Again, I don't chase, but I want it to be known that I am interested in getting to know who he is. Not what he has, but what is his character, his morals, his integrity, how does he think, how does he process emotions. In other words, I want to get to know him. Honestly, genuinely, in a transparent way. You know a man has to be comfortable with self to do that. He also has to be comfortable to do it with a woman he's trying to know.
I gave up on online dating. I don't drink, so why would I go to a bar. In my natural day to day I should be able to bump into someone of interest. At least that's my thought.
My instinct keeps saying to get out of the house. But for a person who regulated themselves to heal, working, writing books, and raising a child. It's a circle that's hard to break.
Everyday I make my presence to the world, is a day when I'm saying, "I'm open to new interactions, platonic or not."
Here's the part that unnerved single women and men genuinely wanting a relationship...we don't want our peace disrupted. We have a system of, our space is peaceful, we feel whole, and we just want someone that can just naturally walk in that alignment, and meet what we are searching for in a partner. Anything other is a no.
We may meet and it still doesn't work out, but here's the thing. You had good conversation, you met someone new. The thing now is to vet people out, and it should be done in the beginning. Feelings are not involved. What are your questions before moving farther. Not a perception of the person.
Mine are:
How do you handle things when you're in a bad mood? Or things that didn't turn out for you the way you thought they should?
What type of relationship are you looking for?
Do you consider yourself spiritual or religious?
Are you in any type of relationship? (Married, divorced, separated, situationship)
Did you get the Covid shot?
I feel there is someone for everybody, and that the good ones are watching the toxic ones being toxic with each other, so much that they're getting tired of one another too.
Everybody wants to give out dating advice, and most that do aren't even in a relationship, let alone have ever been married.
Dating is a personal experience, and when you find that person, that's an even more personal experience. That couple makes up what they're relationship looks like. It may not look like what's normal in the status quo, but if they agree to it and it works for them emotionally, mentally that is what matters.
I've noticed most don't have boundaries, and just want to say they are in a relationship, that they let the person they are dating do things they won't let anyone else do. Boundaries are a good thing.
Relationships take common sense too. Looks are frosting on the cake, sex is the cherry on top, but the cake itself is everything that carries substance, the weight. The heart of it all.
Will I date again? I'm looking forward to it. Until then I'll take some good bomb ass, down for you friendships.
Thank You For Discovering My Page
I just wanted to take the time, and say hi to the new readers who have discovered my page.
I go by D. Imani Muhammad when I write my blogs, and my pen handle for when I write books is D. I. Muhammad.
I write topics that I feel drawn to, and that I am passionate about. They are topics that at times bring awareness, present new ways to look at topics, the promotion of my latest book titles, spirituality and my opinion on certain topics.
My work may present itself at times as honest and vulnerable because I know no other way to be than to give myself in an authentic, genuine way.
I have articles that span back since 2009, when I created this page from a Computer Science class I took in College. After the class ended instead of letting it go, I held onto it, and slowly began to build a space where I can present my voice and my thoughts. You may or may not resonate with everything I present, and that is okay.
I'm in the space now where I'm searching for my tribe. People I resonate with and vice versa. If you are here, and you keep returning I thank you for your readership, and you are my tribe.
Thursday, July 2, 2026
Black Animation That Tells A Story
A few days ago as I was scrolling through YouTube I came across a video built around storytelling. It was so beautifully done even though the creator used AI. It's not about the use of AI, its about the story.
Episode 1 kept my interest and had me so invested in the story that I went and sought out his page where I found Episode 2.
Episode 1 is a story of the gods in Ancient Kemet, ie Akebulan (Egypt), and the betrayal of one amongst them.
The author is, "not a scholar or a writer." The creator just wanted to create something "beautiful for the people." The creator did just that. I'm waiting on Episode 3. The YouTube channel is Junior Movies Entertainment.
Tuesday, June 30, 2026
The Hangover of Chapter 29
By D.I. Muhammad
Monday, June 29, 2026
Timeline Activation
By D.I. Muhammad
Around 2015, I came across videos by Doloris Cannon. She speaks on a lot of spiritual topics. One she spoke on was a timeline split between the 3rd to the 5th Dimension. I would later find Bobby Hemmit who spoke about this too. Bobby said in one of his videos that you didn't want to get stuck in the 4th because that's where a lot of the malevolent were. I'm paraphrasing.
Both of what they said stuck with me.
Sunday, June 28, 2026
Events at the Farmers Market
During the Summer Eastern Market is bustling with vendors who come to sell their produce, art, food, and beauty supplies. Eastern Market is surrounded by other small businesses. Meat markets, spice stores, restaurants, Smoothie shop.
During the Summer there are events that are held here. The Vegan festival was held early in June. The book fair was June 20th, and today June 28, 2026, they are holding the following events.














