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Wednesday, August 6, 2025

The Performance of Love: Promises, Pressure, and the Price I Paid

 

                       

                        By D. M.


Shattered Trust

I wanted to believe he was serious. That all the talk about visiting, about the daughters coming, the concert appearances, the "management" and the promises, were real. I gave grace, again and again, until grace started to cost me my peace. Behind every sweet word was a setup. Behind every setup, a request. And behind every request… a lie. This is the unraveling of how it all began to collapse, not just financially, but spiritually and emotionally.

I stayed longer than I should have because I hoped I was wrong. I wasn’t.

Unauthorized Attempt: The $300 Withdrawal


He Tried to Use My Card Without Asking

As if asking me to buy him a car with a fake check wasn’t enough, that same day, I found out he attempted to use my bank card — without permission, to withdraw $300. No heads-up.

This is what emotional and financial manipulation looks like in real time.
Below are screenshots from the exact moment I discovered Chinedu was trying to use my bank card behind my back — with no warning, no consent, and full intention to go through with it. He claimed it was so he could receive payment from a show he did while in Paris.

















This wasn’t a misunderstanding.
It was a calculated move rooted in assumption, entitlement, and control. all masked as desperation. I share this so others can recognize the signs before trust becomes currency for betrayal.


Car Dreams & A Check from Paris


What he said he wanted, and what he made me do to help him get it.

It was during his daughters graduation that he came out and said he wanted US to have a car. He wanted me to help him pick one out because he said he was planning on buying it here in the states. We went over the type he might want, and I ended up choosing the BMW ix in black, which he really liked. As usual he would plant the seed and then move on to another topic.  We were talking one day and he was reminding me how much he wanted this car and to be on the look out for the check.






Are conversation on March 31, 2025, after he made that PSA video in Paris. 

The License Card & The Upgrade Game


He sent me a list of the cards offered after meeting with his record company.  It took the Visitors card to number two with the VIP card at the top. I inquired about what the license card was.





VIP or Nothing


The shift from access to pressure — and the price kept rising.

Chinedu asked if money could be sent to my account from a show he did in Paris. I declined it at first and then gave in. I gave him my savings account but it wasn't going through and I thought that was that.  He didn't talk about it anymore until he told me out the blue he was sending me a check for the amount.






VIP Card Again 


When the perks became problems and I felt like a customer.

Telling me how I really need the VIP card  in order to see him after the concert in Michigan in August.




Let's get the VIP card straight 


I'm confronting him about the upgrade of the card to VIP  when he didn't even honor my visit card yet.





Visitors Card Deleted  



I tell him that I'm upset about the card basically being deleted since the VIP card has taken over what the Visitors card used to do. It just cost $500 more than the VIP card.






I Thought This Was Enough 


It's now feeling like he was patronizing me. Offering me a Visitors cards + keepsakes, and a shout-out for show day or front row seats. These still came with a price tag attached and I was disappointed.


Feeling Patronized



I was trying to make him understand how I felt.  He offered one thing, the Visitors card, that was never honored and then within 2 months its changed to something else






  Still Pushing The VIP Card 




I'm asking why the Visitors card is no good and he's still pushing for me to get the VIP card







Inquiring if check came






Asking  me on behalf of manager if I received the check. I hadn't. 


The Check That Changed Everything

From Paris, he said. From Minnesota, it came. My spirit knew better.

He was excited when he realized the check made it safely to my home. I was contemplating if I should do this or send this check back.






Why is the check not in your name

The check came from an Engineering company he said he did business with. That some how the manager got the company to write the check out to me so that I could cash it.











Can you deposit the check tonight

He wanted me to deposit the check that night. I just got off work ran to the grocery store. I was exhausted.  I told him it would have to wait until tomorrow.





Depositing the check

Chinedu  was texting me that morning to make sure I would make it to the bank. I ran my other errands first and then I went to deposit that check. My spirit was saying don't do it. But I did it any ways. The moment I did everything became Surreal.  I sent him the receipt after I made the deposit.






The Deposit is Done

He thanked me for making this deposit but I wasn't feeling right about it.  Yes, the check was in my name but he said it was from a show he did in Paris. That check was from MN.







The Funds Have Not Gone Through Yet


I just deposited the check the day before and he wanted me to check on it. To soothe his mind I did.  I told him it would take 7 days to clear.  





Home Cooked Lies

He mentioned he needed a home cooked dinner and talked about how he wanted his daughters to eat more home cooked meals.  I merely asked when he came for the concert was it going to be solely him or him and his daughters.  He was cooking up something didn't know what exactly at the time. It was briefly spoken about. The next day his daughter reached out and was excited about coming to visit. I was upset because we only briefly talked about it. And he had promised his girls a trip to America to visit me.


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Manager taking over TikTok account

Chinedu mentioned to me that his manager would be handling the account now. I noticed an energy change. The next day something was posted. He wasn't running his TikTok account any longer and I didn't visit like I used too. Our conversations were through Whatsapp.  As long as I had that connection I was content.





Let's Talk About The Scammers

He said good morning to me. The day before we had a very open, Intimate heart to heart talk.  The conversation turned to him talking about the scammers using his image and how he felt about that.










🔥 The PSA That Wasn’t

Rod Session: May 31, 2025
Truth behind the Paris scammer video

This rod session was conducted right after Flavour posted a “public service announcement” from Paris, supposedly addressing the scammer allegations swirling around him.

But here’s what the rods made crystal clear:

• Was he running away because of the video he did in Paris about the scamming? Yes
• When he made that video in Paris about the scammers, was everything in that video true? No
• Is he frazzled right now because of that video? Yes
• Is there anything about that video that would have me questioning him? No
• Is he emotionally manipulating me through vagueness and misdirection? Yes
• Are the concerns about people asking me questions about him a deflection from another agenda? Yes

🕯️ Reflection:

This wasn’t a confession. It was a performance. That video wasn’t meant to clear the air — it was meant to cloud it. The goal wasn’t to tell the truth. The goal was to make me — and other women — doubt our intuition long enough for the next play to unfold.

But I’ve learned: when truth is your frequency, no amount of distortion can hold.

Where $9800 Come From?


Chinedu asked if I would  check the account to see what was happening every day. It was still processing, but I noticed $9800 more added to my account with the $10,000. I had no idea where this money came from








The Check is Ready

Chinedu asked for me to  check the account again and he tried to reassure me that the account was temporarily overdrawn. That the check cleared safely and he understood why I was worried. It had only been 3 days. How was it cleared when there was a negative amount sitting in my account.  I was beyond worried, I was hyperventilating.   I gave this man my trust. 









My Workers and Social Media

Chinedu spoke about his workers on some of his social media accounts talking to women saying they were him.  Facebook controlled by management.






My Workers and social media Telegram

Chinedu told me how this site was totally handled by the music business workers




My Workers and Social Media Facebook

I was telling him that someone poising as him on his site answered a woman s comment trying to get her to come over to telegram to have a private conversation with him. This comment was posted under his video he did in Paris about how he doesn't reach out to women and randomly chat them up. I felt disgusted when I saw that.






EFCC

Chinedu spoke to briefly about the EFCC who said for him not to monitor his pages, and he told me how the music platform worked. He said he could not post on verified pages, but I informed him who ever told the woman to join him on Telegram commented on the post.  His reaction sounded surprised. He then asked me not to go to Facebook because of all the scammers.

He told me his manager and workers were handling his social media accounts now. That the EFCC told him not to monitor his pages himself.




It felt like another wall between us. Another reason why he couldn’t be directly responsible for what was happening on his platforms, including the women being drawn in, lied to, or misled.


I didn’t know what to believe anymore. Everything had a middleman. Everything had an excuse. And meanwhile, I was the one carrying the emotional weight of all of it.


Left me hanging  

Chinedu  had been telling me the check, the negative amount of 9800 being taken out my account would be okay.  He asked me to check the account only to find out the there was -$10,000.  I asked about it. He said he was going to check what happened. I never heard back from him for the test of the day. My nerves were frazzled. I was scared.  I was walking anxiety and paranoia on two legs. I don't know how I mentally made it through that day with the children.  I spiraled. I cried. I asked for spiritual protection.  





Where The Hell Did You Go!

Chinedu abandoned me and I was pissed.  He returned the next day when he felt the coast was clear.  Perking around the corner to make sure there wasn't any chaos or debris.

I asked him what the hell happened. He sent me a kiss emoji like that was suppose to soothe things over and make me feel better.  I didn't need that. I needed answers.

I told him I was done. I wasn’t doing this again. To tear up my information I gave to him. I meant every word of that. He betrayed me. This was the biggest one yet. It wasn't a lie it was the ultimate betrayal. Then to hear the words money laundering ran fear through me.

This the man who said he loves me but still put me in harms way.  All the I'm sorrys in the world could couldn't help soothe what I was feeling. 






Then to hear the words money laundering ran fear through me.



I didn’t just lose money. I lost trust, clarity, and the feeling of safety in my own home. But what came next hurt even more.


To Be Continued...


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