When the Fantasy Collapsed: The Day I Chose Me

                 

By D. M.

 The check was returned. The money never came. The story didn’t hold. And I was left holding the weight of a man’s manipulation disguised as love. It wasn’t just financial,  it was emotional warfare. Every apology felt scripted. Every “I love you” carried a hook. And even in my exhaustion, I still held space , until the moment I realized I was dying in it.

This is what happened next. This is how I finally said no, and meant it.

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   The Way You Made Me Feel

I told him how it made me feel like a sitting duck when i told him the money wasn't in my account any longer, and i got an email saying it was a Fictitious check.  My heart dropped. I was at work and I wanted to scream. He tried to soothe me to make me feel he knew nothing about it. I still received no clear clarity. 

 

His words were full of sorrow. But sorrow doesn’t undo damage. I needed clarity, not comfort. And love without truth is still deception.

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The Manager Again

I clicked on the managers page accidentally thinking I was replying back to Chinedu after seeing his notification.  I responded that my heart was heavy, but I would be alright. When I realized I had typed that to the manager and not Chinedu I was mortified. I quickly deleted the message and then the managers whole account on Whatsapp. 

Chinedu said not to message anyone that claimed to be him or the manager. He was planning something.  What? He didn't say.

He said all of this was the cause of his manager.

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                                                        The Money Was Returned 

Chinedu wanted me to call the bank to find out about the money. I told him the funds were returned.   He was blaming the fact of the money being returned on being my account wouldn't be able to accept the $10,000.  I would later find out the true reason. I got that Remitly removed.  He never addressed how it got there.

The more I questioned, the more he deflected. First the banks. Then the manager. Then me. Love without accountability is not love,  it’s manipulation in costume.

 

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I Know Why The Check Was Returned

Chinedu blamed the returned funds on my account “not being able to receive large sums.” But that was never the issue. I would later discover the truth: this wasn’t a failed deposit, it was part of something darker. And he never once explained how the money got there in the first place.

Every answer led to more confusion. Every explanation created more questions. I wasn’t just dealing with heartbreak. I was now dealing with the possibility of being set up, financially and spiritually

The Performance of Love: Promises, Pressure, and the Price I Paid

 

                       

                        By D. M.

Shattered Trust

I wanted to believe he was serious. That all the talk about visiting, about the daughters coming, the concert appearances, the "management" and the promises, were real. I gave grace, again and again, until grace started to cost me my peace. Behind every sweet word was a setup. Behind every setup, a request. And behind every request… a lie. This is the unraveling of how it all began to collapse, not just financially, but spiritually and emotionally.

I stayed longer than I should have because I hoped I was wrong. I wasn’t.

Love to See You in Person: The Manipulation Behind the Visit That Never Happened

                                  

                     By Damali M. 

After introducing his daughter and pushing the Visitors card, Chinedu quickly shifted into a new phase of emotional manipulation, this time, wrapped in promises of travel, studio setbacks, and his desire to finally meet me in person. It all sounded promising, but the undercurrent was always the same: another request, another excuse, another delay.

After the Goodbye: What He Did After I Walked Away

                          

By D.M

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 The first post I wrote about Flavour was titled, The World Will Be My Witness: My Experience With Flavour, where I posted receipts of how he acted towards me when I no longer wanted to be in his life as his woman.   

There was the break-up letter, which he could not accept. I extended my friendship to him, but that was not good enough, and then came the threats. That's when communication was cut. Apps we both used were blocked, and for my protection I posted the documents that I filed against him. 

 This is the follow-up to Love Bombed, Then Billed. This is what happened after I walked away.

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📝 The Goodbye He Wouldn’t Accept

June 10, 2025

This was the letter that he could not accept.

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📸 You Know Why I’m Back, Right?

I blocked this man after he harassed and threatened me. I was shocked to find him in my dm's today, July 27, 2025.

I blocked and closed the door on Flavour when he threatened me, so how he got through the block on his page, I really don't know.  

I stayed for as long as I did because he said he had something he needed to tell me. I was looking for an apology. One that I never got and I don't plan to receive it any time in the future unless he truly takes the time to heal himself. 

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🧿 The Manager’s Watchful Eye

                                   Chinedu 7/28/25 Session

• Did Chinedu tell me what he needed to tell me last night? yes
  
  Was it about us getting back together? No
  
  Was it about what his manager said to him? Yes

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  His manager is watching my page? Yes

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  His manager is the short stouty guy with the belly? Yes

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  His manager is sending people to my page? Yes

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  To my dm's? Yes

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  His manager told him that lie about me chasing after his friends (Chinedu's) and talking to one of them? Yes

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  The ones who have been sent to my dm's and I spoke with are all sent by Chinedu's  manager? Yes

• So, the ones who have spoken to me did they go back and lie about me to the manager? No

• Are you (ancestors) taking care of the manager for lying? Yes

• Confirmed by dowsing session

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🚫 5. Final Closure & Re-block

 After our conversation on TikTok, July 27, 2025,  I went and re-blocked his page. I have nothing else to say to him, and I'm tired of the looping in our conversations.  To be back in the relationship with him means dealing with his stepping on my boundaries. His emotional and financial manipulation, and his gaslighting. 

These are tactics of a narcissist. If you are going through this as a woman you don't have to stay. Scammers  prey on low self esteem. This is why they start with the love bombing. It's to make you feel as if your in a safe space, when you're really not. 

Flavour was never mines. He felt like it. He had other women that he was talking too, even when he said he wasn't. I did genuinely grow to love this man. Not for what he had, but for the person that I saw. I saw Chinedu the man, when he decided to peek out from behind the scamming, and the love bombing. There were moments when I did genuinely feel his heart through his words. But how do you tell a person you love them, you want to be with them one minute, and you have your hand out running game the next. That's kind of twisted.

These blog post seem to have turned into a series. I don't post for revenge or bitterness. That's not my nature. I post to make other women aware of the game when someone says they're the Nigerian artist Flavour.  Just block them all regardless of what social media platform they come through. 

For those who have already encountered the real Flavour, or one of his imposters, and got caught  in the web of the scam. 

May your heart heal. 

May you learn to love again. 

May you learn to trust again.

May we all receive some form of retribution from him. 

But most of all, may you forgive him. Not forget. This forgiveness isn't for him.

 It's for you.

Because that's the only way the heart  truly heals. 

              The door is closed. The crown is tilted. And I’ve got nothing left for him but silence.

To Be Continued here