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Sunday, August 16, 2026

Etymology of Hysteria

                     


By D. Imani Muhammad


Eytomology: The orgin of words, historical developments and semantic  shifts.   It looks at how words come in, and out of language,  how spellings, and meanings of that word change throughout time.

I first learned about this in 2008 watching a metaphysical lecture at the time. I found it interesting. Throughout my life I've heard words take on new meaning. Example, Gay. When I was growing up it meant happy. Now, it's references people who are homosexual. 

Words change in meaning to fit the current state of the culture.

Another word is Hysteria.  

The dictionary classifies the meaning of the word as: "an uncontrollable outburst of extreme emotion or fear, a dated medical diagnosis, and a state of group panic." (Dictionary.com)

What if I told you it was associated with a woman's,  "wandering womb".   It was only associated with women whose womb moved, that it would send them into bouts of hysteria.  Women's bodies weren't a issue of figuring out and understanding at the time. It was looked at as more of a nuisance.  

Yes, they actually believed a woman's uterus "wandered". I wonder where it was going.


When you look at the etymological meaning, and then research the history, you find..well let me show you what I found, and let's see if we come to the same conclusion.


The Etymological Meaning




Considered to be an excess of emotions that referred to a temporary state of mind. It was believed during the 1800's that women were predisposed to mental and behavioral conditions. In the 1900's it shifted to a mental illness, so much so that Sigmund Freud, and Jean-Martin Charcot dedicated research to the topic. They viewed it as a minor pelvic congestion. 

In the Kahun papyrus, the Egyptians would record abnormalities among women linking the behavior to, "a wandering uterus".   The Greeks would later label it as hysteria. 

The treatment during this time was doctors using strong smelling substances on a woman's vulva for it to return to the proper position or swallowing or smelling unsavory herbs to encourage the uterus to move back into position. 


With the influence of Christianity in the Latin West, in the 13th century the understanding of hysteria would be altered medically, and publicly. Under St. Augustine, it became known now as sin, with a treatment of amulets, exorcism and prayers.  

Constantine the African in his work said it was a cause of amor heroycus, "a powerful, obsessive form of lovesickness or unfulfilled sexual desire that was thought to cause physical illness and mental madness."

In the 1800's, to medically assist women relieve  pressure in that area, doctors would manually massage the women.  This would end up being time consuming, so a British gentleman, Joseph Mortimer Grandville, in 1880 invented an electrical vibrator to lessen the time for the massages, increasing clients and profits for them.   And yes, it is the type of massage you may be thinking about. They massaged the women to an orgasm. 



Movie, "Hysteria"



In the 1900's, these devices where now being advertised for home use. The doctors now had an increased clientele, and vibrators to do the job instead of their fingers. Electricity in homes was common now,  making the shift more easy. 

The vibrator was sold through Sears, Roebuck & Co., with no shame, right along side sewing machines, beauty ads, and blenders. The target was women. 

Women were not looked at as sexual beings, with sexual needs, so the language when advertised had to coded. Promising beauty and vitality and relieving tension. Remember this was just a minor pelvic congestion.

Not a contraption I would want 
anywhere near me.




To sell the vibrator so openly coded language had to be used. Saying it was good for the whole family was one way the language was coded.















Around the 1920's, there was now an issue of selling vibrators, and shipping them through the USPS.  Comstock Laws  were now in place that sexual devices could not be shipped through U.S. mail. Vibrators were shipped in brown paper packaging. Some packages got through undetected. 

That law is still in effect.

Early pornographic films began to use them. It was hard for the public to ignore, that the advertisement of vibrators ceased. 

The acknowledgement of women just being sexually frustrated was still not addressed, and they were labeled as crazy until World War 1.  When the soldiers returned home from war, the military noticed the same shaking that the women were going through, the men were going through. The men  also went through a paralysis.  The military not wanting to label the men unmanly had to restructure a new term for the soliders.

They couldn't label it hysteria because the men didn't possess a womb, so it had to be named something else.  For the men it was known as Shell Shock.  They were seen as being under extreme stress.  This was the break between gender and diagnosis.  The term was known now as Post-Traumatic Syndrome Disorder (PTSD).

Hysteria was first taken out of the DSM in 1952 because the term hysteria was outdated, falling out of scientific favor. Meaning they didn't have proof for their claim. 

In 1968, it was put back into the DSM-2 as hysterical Neurosis. The medical establishment needed to keep the narrative going. This "illness" was split into two sub-types, conversion type and dissociative  type. 

Conversion is physical paralysis or blindness caused by anxiety.

Dissociative was altercations in consciousness.

 It wouldn't be until 1980 that Psychiatry would take the term Hysterical Neurosis out of the DSM-3.


If you have followed my History of Marriage blog, I showed that when the European came to "America", it was actually called Turtle Island, and discovered beautiful copper toned women, that they neglected their own women chasing after the Indigenous ones wanting to marry into the tribe or assaulting them.


What was initially women who just needed intimacy, turned into women being treated with a mental illness. A physical misalignment.  

Men who endured stress, paralysis, PTSD,  could not be labeled as hysterical, they were simply over stressed.  As time went on, due to women's environment of stress, abuse, they still were looked at as crazy. Women were never viewed as being human, or having a natural  sexual impulse or desire. They were just a piece of flesh, walking.


With Indigenous women who were already on the land, this was unheard of. There was a respect, a unity among the men and women. This unity would slowly dwindle through the decades. 

Sexual health and reproduction among all women would end up being an issue, even when the Indigenous would have to seek medical care among the Europeans who came to America as doctors. Indigenous were treated like lab rats for a gynecological exam.

Medical science just published an article on women experiencing the signs of a heart attack differently than men.  They were just able to map the nerve endings of the clitoris.  Women still get gaslit when they complain of pain. 

Women may have been clinically unlabeled as crazy for feeling amorous, stressed, but our body autonomy is still not taken serious by many. 

Wednesday, June 19, 2019

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Friday, December 30, 2011

Sex and Islam - I. Muhammad



What I intend to speak about in no way pertains to every Muslim. I have just noticed something in the Islamic community that needs to be addressed whether those in the Islamic community are aware of these situations or not. This article is in no way meant to target, mis-credit or demean in any way, shape or form, but there are too many stories that I am hearing from other Muslims about what is happening, and it sickens me and I was absolutely appalled and in disbelief when it was first told to me. But like all things when you hear a story of something happening more then once but from different people ,within the religion, then you have to start to wonder what is going on, and is the religion still effective or does one just do it now out of habit? This question pertains to all religions. This is my disclaimer.


I was speaking to a friend and some how, like it usually happens, I was told that in an Islamic community that sisters’ get together, not for tasleem, but to have oral sex with one another. Well, I’m sitting on the phone in utter disbelief by that statement, and I say, ‘stop. No they don’t.’ My friend never has a reason to exaggerate the truth when it comes to the facts and my friend says, ‘yes, they do. I was talking to a sister who is apart of this community and she said that this is what the sisters’ get together to do.’ My reaction. Oh, my goodness. We talk about other things but that is the thing out of all the things we spoke about that left the impression on me the most.


I have been in the masjid during an event, and heard some young sisters in the hallway saying, ‘we still going out tonight to the club?’ Yes, the club.


I have been to dinners at sisters’ houses and not only do they talk about the wonders and the love for Allah, they talk about how the man who was the father had his child sit on his lap and was sexual fondling her. Or how a Sister re-married brought a child into that new marriage, had children with the man only to find out later he was molesting the child that was not his biologically. Ok, madness be still!


So, I find myself walking away from the Muslim community and only emerging for Jumah, and then slowly walking away all together after being in it for eleven years. I realized that a lot of Non-Muslims perceive Muslims as holy. Like Muslims could do no wrong. I’m sorry, but while I was practicing no one anointed my feet every morning. As Muslims we feel that and hold everyone to the standard of do you follow what comes out of the Quran and Sunnah. Well, at least I did and the people I hung around. I’ve seen the beauty of this deen and I’ve seen the madness, so it’s the madness that needs to be spoken on right now. Let’s address the holy than thou mentality Non-Muslims portray on Muslims because I got this a lot. Muslims are nothing more than people who slip and can make mistakes as well. As long as you are here in this flesh you are liable to make a mistake every once in a while.


Let’s address some of the questions I had while practicing and these questions still haunt me now.


-What are the reasons why young Muslimahs do not want to marry right away or at all?


-When interviewing a potential mate do you ask or talk about sex?


-Is there homosexuality in the Muslim community?


I have recently heard that a lot of young Muslimahs are not rushing to get married. Well they weren’t rushing while I was practicing either. A lot of young women now want an education, and don’t feel that being a housewife is for them. All that is fine. You have Muslims and Muslimahs who want to chose there own mates and don’t feel rushing into a marriage with someone they hardly know is the answer for them. When you do that you have young ladies who now start to sneak around. Example, every year there is an Arab American festival where I live. I took my daughter, and we walked in where the stage was. Walk a little farther and you come to the picnic tables and the food stands. As we are walking I hear someone call out to somebody and here walks up this Arab girl to this Caucasian guy. She walks to him and looks around, and he is looking at her in a perplexed way. She holds his arm still looking around and says to him, ‘wait right here. I’ll be back, I‘m with my family.’ She’s laughing, but still looking around. I’m looking at this scene going to myself I need to sit down and watch this play out, but I don‘t.


One he’s looking perplexed because he probably never saw her in her scarf, and doesn’t know what to make out of this, and she keeps looking around because her family is with her and they have no idea about him.


So, explain to me what is wrong with love when you come across it and it doesn’t practice the same way you do? Why should men only be privy to marriage to someone of another religion? I know I’ve heard it before, ‘because the Non-Muslim male would strip her of her religion.’ Not a true statement. I’ve meet a few Muslim women who married Non-Muslim men who respected her religion, and he was of another religion and they got along peacefully. It worked for them. So, is this just a way to subdue the woman so she does not ever want to stray outside the religion? A way to keep her docile? My other question is if she is stripping off her hijab (scarf) and going to clubs why is she doing it? Don’t get me wrong because men are in the clubs too getting there groove on.


These young men and women are looking for outlets that are not in the Muslim community. They have their music that they like to listen too. There are no social functions for these young people that they do sneak. There are no social functions because of the fear of mixing. So, why the fear of mixing? Most go to public schools, not Islamic, so they are meeting those of the opposite sex.


Some may be at an age where they want to marry but it’s hard to find someone if you can’t get close enough to talk to them. So, now they are going too find ways to socialize.


Is there homosexuality in Islam? While I was practicing I heard about a Masjid in Canada that allows homosexuality. In some Muslim countries it is allowed. But the talk among Muslims who knew this was how can that be when the Quran forbids such a practice. That if you follow the Quran how can you go against it and still practice homosexuality. I placed an article below where in Jakarta it is now allowed. So, to answer the question does it exist. Yes, especially if its allowed in some muslim countries and a masjid was built in Canada that’s attended by those who prefer the same-sex.


So, she may not want to marry because she is simply not ready to marry, never wants to marry because of the example in her household on marriage or what she has heard of marriage, or she just may be lesbian. You can disagree but I stand by this.


So, let’s get to the next question. Why were those women having oral sex with one another? (I’m not practicing and it still blows my mind) Well, I have come to the conclusion that men, you not taking care of your woman like you are supposed too. You can go to Mecca and kiss that black stone that resembles your woman’s vagina but yet you can’t go and worship the alter that sleeps next to you every night. In the Quran it speaks about the man and the woman being each others garment and to go to it as you will. Meaning how ever you two agree to have sex it is permissible.


Sexually take care of your woman, so she is not feeling unfulfilled sexually. This should not be a topic that is uncomfortable for two married people to speak about. You can’t just fall on top of her when the lights go out, ejaculate and think that she is okay because you ejaculated. Sex is about pleasure from one to the other. You want her to make you feel good you have to make her feel good, and when it comes to women, men have to put in a little bit more time called foreplay. Worship at the temple.


The other conclusion I came too was because maybe they are bi-sexual or lesbian. Don’t get appalled. Muslims get appalled to easily instead of critically looking at something for what it is. Remember I said NOT ALL Muslims. I’m only addressing the ones that are doing this practice. It’s a large amount because I was I told this about two communities where I reside, so it exist. So, let’s tackle the issue at hand, and stop acting like we are living in the times of Muhammad (S.A.W).


If these women are bi-sexual or lesbian it is forbidden for them to proclaim so, because homosexuality does not go hand and hand when dealing with Islam. When I speak of homosexuality I speak of women and men. So, you either have women in the community who do it because the man is not fully taking care of her sexually or she is bi-sexual. This leads into the next question.


When interviewing a potential mate do you ask or talk about sex?


Why is this topic such a turn off when you go to talk about it if you even dare to approach it? I have experienced this when I was interviewing brothers for marriage and so have a lot of other women. This is a necessary part of the interview process if you plan on getting married. I got tired of hearing brother’s say astagfillah sister we should not talk of things like that. Why not? We plan on doing it once we marry someone, right? Then it’s a necessary part of the interviewing process. Like I mentioned before sister’s want to feel sexually fulfilled by their man, not like a jump off (one night stand that you just get off on). So, as part of that process both parties should be mature enough to talk about this. You’re mature enough to do it, but you can’t speak on the issue. Allah is not going to get you for talking about sex. Most Muslim men can easily have sex with a non-Muslim woman but refuse to speak of it when around a Muslim woman which to me is kind of backwards.


I have heard of sister’s who told there wali that before considering or agreeing to marry the brother she needed to see his penis. Yes, you read correctly. Remember not just spiritual, emotional, financial, mental fulfillment, she needs sexual as well. It’s called compatibility. Just because two people have the same spiritual belief system does not mean off the back they are right for one another. It’s more than just that. You have to take the other components into consideration as I just mentioned along with the personality of the two people. So, communication and spending time together plays a big part of a potential relationship, whether it’s a platonic friendship or a friendship between the two that works out into a long lasting relationship.


The Wali went and told the brother what the sister requested, and all three parties went into a private area and the brother exposed himself for her. She looked and then left. That was her request. She had to know for herself, so how could she be denied. To deny that for her would have probably made her say no to marriage to the brother. I don’t know if this topic is viewed as dirty, but it is not at all dirty. Remember your potential wife or current wife is not your jump off, if you treat her as such you will lose her and sex with you will no longer be a joy it will be viewed as a chore. Once something starts feeling like we got to do it we start slacking hoping you catch on to the meaning.


References from Quran and Sunnah


Homosexuality


Surah 7:80-84


Surah 11:78-80


Islam 'recognizes homosexuality


http://www.thejakartapost.com/news/2008/03/27/islam-039recognizes-homosexuality039.html


Famous poets in Arabia glorified homosexuality. Below is the poem, "Perfumed Garden" by Abu Nuwas:


O the joy of sodomy!
So now be sodomites, you Arabs.
Turn not away from it--
therein is wondrous pleasure.


Take some coy lad with kiss-curls
twisting on his temple
and ride as he stands like some gazelle
standing to her mate.


A lad whom all can see girt with sword
and belt not like your whore who has
to go veiled.


Make for smooth-faced boys and do your
very best to mount them, for women are
the mounts of the devils


Surah 52.24
And there shall wait on them [the Muslim men] young boys of their own, as fair as virgin pearls."


Surah 76.19-20
They shall be attended by boys graced with eternal youth, who will seem like scattered pearls to the beholders."


Surah 4.15 And as for those who are guilty of an indecency from among your women, call to witnesses against them four (witnesses) from among you; then if they bear witness confine them to the houses until death takes them away or Allah opens some way for them